Resilience is a skill we can learn and develop.

It grows through our ability to recognise signals from the body, to look around and notice signs of safety in our environment, to accept support from people who care for us, and to develop a sense of agency, the feeling that we can influence our own lives.

When we think about calm, we often imagine a person who is rarely disturbed or thrown off balance. We picture someone who does not become consumed by anger, who does not get lost in anxiety, who can move through sadness without falling apart, and who seems able to meet life with a sense of ease. Their body is relaxed, their breathing steady, and their nervous system appears settled and regulated. But life rarely looks this way.